Pregnancy Dreams
I'm officially 27 weeks along in my pregnancy, according to my LMP (last menstrual period) and the ultrasounds I've had that measure the baby. Even though this is my second child, a few things have taken me by surprise - either things I forgot or things that just didn't happen the first time around. I think pregnancy dreams happened the first time, it's just that I don't remember. Well, I've been having a lot of them lately. They are all bizarre in their own way. Contrary to what the baby books tell me, I've not had any sex dreams, sadly. Those would be much more enjoyable than what I've been dreaming about. So far, I've dreamed about Alec Baldwin trying to kill me. If you doubt his ability in this area, just refer to the movie "The Cooler". He was a badass in that. But that's not as disturbing as the dreams I've had this week. They all involve me messing up with caring for my baby. The other night, I dreamed that I had the baby and we brought him home. For the first week, I forgot to feed him. I couldn't figure out why he wasn't gaining weight and why he was fussy all the time. In last night's dream, I was just generally inept as a mother. I could not figure out how to nurse my baby, I couldn't put a diaper on the right way, his bedding and clothing were filthy because I didn't do laundry.
All of these dreams must mean something, except for the one with Alec Baldwin. The thing is, I've been reading so many resources with this baby than I did with K. I never read anything with him and he turned out okay. That's not to say that I wouldn't do some things differently if I could. Maybe I have a certain amount of guilt about that - that I was not as prepared as I should have been when I had K. The books I've been reading I've actually learned things from - things I never knew before. Things I should have known before. So I guess I'll keep having these dreams until I let go of the things I can't go back and change.
All of these dreams must mean something, except for the one with Alec Baldwin. The thing is, I've been reading so many resources with this baby than I did with K. I never read anything with him and he turned out okay. That's not to say that I wouldn't do some things differently if I could. Maybe I have a certain amount of guilt about that - that I was not as prepared as I should have been when I had K. The books I've been reading I've actually learned things from - things I never knew before. Things I should have known before. So I guess I'll keep having these dreams until I let go of the things I can't go back and change.
posted by Notta Wallflower at 7:11 AM
21 Comments:
Just remember they dont come with instructions and each baby is different. LOL.. I am only picking and you will be a very fine mother since you already have on son and he will be as joyful to help you as you take the journey through baby hood into older childhood again. I never dreamed with the girls but I had other sources telling me that I wasnt going to do a good job at my new assigned job of being mom. It wasnt easy and still isnt some days with this paritcular source.
Tweety - That is too bad that someone would feel that way. What an awful thing to say to a parent. No one has said that to me - they are just things I feel inside. I know that, when it comes down to it, I'll be fine and so will the baby. I think I just let my mind get the best of me.
It seems every person worries about how good of a parent he/she will be. Even though you have a child who turned out great, with new babies there's so much to be done that I'm sure it's healthy to be worried.
I already have pregnancy dreams where I find myself suddenly giving birth or having to take care of a baby, and I'm so unprepared, and I'm not even pregnant or trying to be.
Kit - I guess I can't imagine not worrying at all. I would feel something is wrong with that. :-P Either way, I can't win. Maybe it's just our female hormones - that could explain your dreams, too. ;-)
Hmmm, was it young and toned Alec Baldwin, or current overweight drunk Alec Baldwin? ;)
Unfortunately, it was the latter. :-/
I just saw this study about pregnancy dreams. http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=83666
I had a lot of violent and highly emotional dreams and i would wake up in a cold sweat. i.e. i was sooo angry andmymother or husband because they were doing or saying something really mean to me.
I just read the article - I think it's the one you referenced. I didn't really think about the sleep deprivation piece, but it's been a big problem lately. I'm surprised you had those dreams - you seem like such a confident mother to me. :-P That kind of puts the brakes on the "confidence" issue.
Don't listen to that nonsense, Tweets. No parent is perfect, but you're doing an excellent job - the ones who tell other people how to/how not to raise their children without being asked are the ones with the problem, I think.
I had a dream about Alec Baldwin the other night, too. It wasn't very interesting, unfortunately. It was probably because I watched "30 Rock", and certainly not because I'm pregnant. ;D
SME - I love 30 Rock. I resisted watching this show, but H got me started on it, and I have to admit that it's good.
Notta Wallflower: Bad dreams can be so powerful that they rattle all of us at one time or another. My CPA who is now 80 said, "Consign all bad dreams to the waste basket". That helps me get on with the morning after a bad dream!
Michael - That's good advice. I should not dwell on them. Who knows - that could be why I still have them? :-P
Congratulations! Clearly, I haven't been keeping up. Please forgive my surprise. I'm so happy for you! And the dream with Alec Baldwin could actually mean something. I would consider installing a security system, if I were you.
I don't care if we were bowling together, I wouldn't want Alec Baldwin in my dreams. That sucks.
Well, here's to hoping you have a dream with Antonio Banderas instead. :)
Bert - Thanks! A security system might be good in any case. I always think I'm safer than I really am.
ZS - Well, Antonio is not exactly my type. As I write this, I'm trying to think of my type and I'm coming up with a blank. :-/ However, I'd be willing to admit that Antonio is a step or two up from Alec Baldwin. :-P
Mommy guilt, my familiar friend! That crappy guilt that creeps up on you everywhere you go! My mom told me not to read so much because it would just worry me. But I wanted to be informed. I probably won't read as much with the next children because I've been through it...but you have a bit of time between your children, so it is almost like you are experiencing this for the first time all over again. So, it is ok to read and do things that you didn't do the first time! There are more resources now than there used to me...don't feel badly for it!
Slade - I had wanted to just be better informed this time around. I'm laughing because even if I didn't read, I have plenty of people around to say what to do and what not to do. This gal at work saw me drinking tea with honey and told me I wasn't supposed to have honey. When I asked her why, she could not give me an answer. /sigh It's that kind of stuff that I kind of have to let go of.
I think you are not supposed to have raw (unpasteurized) honey because of the chance of catching/passing one something weird from it. Regular pasteurized honey from the plastic honey bear or plastic squishy beehive should be fine :)
Notta, I would totally be freaked out about Alec Baldwin trying to kill me, especially the old fat Alec Baldwin. Don't worry about it too much, you are going to be fine. I would worry if you didn't feel this way. By the way, I didn't know that when you are pregnant you get sex dreams. That is something to forward to when I get pregnant. Awesome!
insomniac - That makes me feel better. Now I can take regular ole honey off my "do not touch" list. :-P
Angelique - The sex dreams are because you have a ton of hormones running all around in your body when you're pregnant. Your hubby will especially love the mood swings. :-P
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